How to Fuck From The Bottom And Still Dominate Him

We’ve been taught that power is all about being on top. But I’m here to show you why missionary—yes, missionary—is a secret dom move when you know how to work it. This episode is all about owning the position we were told to just lie there in. Because power? It’s not about where your body is. It’s about your intention.

You’ll learn:
• How to control the angle, rhythm, and pace from below
• Verbal cues that act like erotic commands
• Why eye contact, moaning, and breathwork are your stealth power tools
• Six step-by-step moves to take charge while lying on your back
• Plus a bonus on “submission as domination in disguise”

And yes—this is science-backed and pleasure-forward.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Missionary Domination
• 4:11 Power Tilt: Control Through Pelvis Movement
• 6:42 Eye Contact and Visual Domination
• 7:55 The Wraparound Grip: Controlling with Legs
• 9:52 Verbal Control: Using Your Voice
• 11:11 Edging and Clit Commands
• 14:50 Conscious Submission as Dominance

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:03

Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here. Nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats, our most trusted friends and, of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. If you've been here from the beginning, thank you. And if you're new, welcome to my podcast. Where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Now let's talk about sex Cheers. Today's Talk Sex with Annette.

Speaker 1: 1:39

Topic is how to fuck from the bottom and still dominate them in whatever dynamic you choose dynamic you choose. In this episode, I'm flipping a tired cliche on its back, literally, and helping you reclaim the position we were taught to just lie there in, because dominance and submission, well, that's not about where your body is, it's a mindset. Today we are rewriting the rules on one of the most underrated and most misjudged sex positions out there Missionary. Now, before you roll your eyes at the position blamed for everything from dead fish sex to men just mounting and pumping away, stay with me because I'm about to show you how missionary can become a true power position, one that invites playful kink, deeper emotional connection and more intense pleasure than you thought possible. Yes, you can fuck like a goddess and run the whole damn show while lying flat on your back, and when you do it right, you'll blow their mind and remind them exactly who's in charge. But before we dive in, let me remind you that I'm over on OnlyFans and there I'm sharing my intimacy, how-tos, my audio guided self-pleasure, meditations and so much more all designed to help you start having better sex tonight and more pleasure than you ever thought you could. I'm also over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same, and you can find me in both places with my handle at TalkSexWithAnette. You can also scroll down to the notes in this podcast episode and you're going to find links to everywhere you can find me that you'd want to find me.

Speaker 1: 3:17

But for now, let's dive in to missionary and how it can be a position that lets you dominate them in ways they never thought possible Cheers. So let's start with why missionary is a sleeper dom move. We've been taught to associate power with being on top, but here's what I want you to understand Control isn't about movement, it's about intention. Being on the bottom doesn't mean giving it power. It means you can take it silently, sensually and with devastating precision, because when you're beneath them, you're not just receiving, you're recalibrating the entire experience. You get to slow things down, shift angles, drag out their orgasm and keep them guessing, and while they think they're calling the shots, you're the one setting the rules with your hips, with your voice, with your gaze, with your grip. Studies from the Journal of Sexual Marital Therapy show that the most satisfying sex happens when partners are attuned physically and emotionally, responding to each other in real time, and when you're on the bottom, fully aware, fully present and guiding the rhythm with your body. Fully aware, fully present and guiding the rhythm with your body. That's not passive, that's power. So let's break down six ways you can take control from below and leave them wondering how missionary went from meth to mind-blowing.

Speaker 1: 4:39

Number one let's start with a power tilt. Control the angle, control them. So, starting with your pelvis, most of us are taught to lay flat and let our partner thrust, but the real power move is in the tilt of the pelvis. Tilt your pelvis slightly up. I want you to imagine this as a slow offering, not a surrender. Tilt up and subtly grind, not a lot, just enough, so that you're the one guiding the depth and angle. So why does this work? Because this little tilt does three things. One it pulls his shaft or dildo against your G-spot. Number two it presses your clit into your partner's pubic bone Hello, external clitoral stimulation. And, most importantly, it forces them to adjust to you. They can't just keep jackhammering when you change the rhythm. And look science facts this up. Studies show that women who adjust their own pelvic movement during penetration are more likely to reach orgasm. You're engaging the exact nerve endings that respond to pressure and rhythm, not fast friction. This is how you quietly take control. They think they're leading, but they're just following your grind.

Speaker 1: 5:56

Number two is eye contact plus eye candy. I'm talking about the gaze that governs them. I want to talk about what I personally love best about being on bottom. It's the view. Seriously, from below you get the best seat in the house. You can take in every inch of their body, their chest, their arms, the way their abs tighten, the flush rising up the neck and, best of all, you get to watch as their face changes when they realize you're not just beneath them, you're in control, and you're fucking them like a. You're in control and you're fucking them like a goddess or a pleasure dom, whichever one you prefer. And research shows that eye contact during sex increases dopamine and oxytocin, both of which make the experience feel deeper, more emotional and more unforgettable. So don't close your eyes and disappear. Keep them wide open, stay in the moment, take it all in and allow yourself to enjoy and feel the visual stimulation. When you stay connected, with eyes locked and moan with purpose and greedy want, it lets them know you're not just present, you're the one conducting the entire scene.

Speaker 1: 7:05

Number three is the wraparound grip, aka the lockdown, depending on how strong your legs are. We're going to get your legs in the game here. You're going to wrap them high around his waist or cross them behind his lower back and pull him in. Your legs aren't just accessories, they're anchors. When you tighten around him, you're not clinging, you're containing. You control depth, you control thrust, you dictate if he's going to be shallow or deep, slow or not at all. If you want to tease him, pull him in, hold him tight, then stop all motion. Let him feel the tension and then whisper. Stay right there, don't move until I say this is where domination becomes physical and psychological. You're using your body like a rope and he's tied to your pace. And, by the way, this kind of control creates internal friction that lights up the anterior vaginal wall, meaning more stimulation for you and more heat for him.

Speaker 1: 8:10

Bonus move use your feet, slide them down his back, press the soles against his thighs or his calves, depending on your heights and how your bodies come together. This allows you to anchor him and choose the tilt of your hips that works for you or drives him while, or if your legs are around his shoulders, you can use your feet to cup and pull him deeper, or press against his chest to push him away. Play with placement and control. The arch of your foot is surprisingly central, especially when you press it against his skin and hold him there. The psychology of that foot pressure. It adds just a little touch of kink, a silent reminder that even your toes are involved in the game and you are using every inch of your body to guide, contain and control them.

Speaker 1: 9:03

So number four is verbal control, Using your voice as a leash. Now, this one is crucial. You're going to need to talk to your partner, whisper, command, tease, guide, but don't be silent, because from the bottom, your voice carries a different kind of power. When they hear you take control, especially from a position that looks submissive, it flips a switch. Try this, say slower, I want to feel every inch, or no, stop right there, stay still, or you don't get to come. Yet I'm not done using you. It's unexpected, it's sexy and it sends a clear message this is your body and you're lucky to be in it. Science backs this too. Verbal feedback heightens arousal in both partners and increases orgasm success rates. So don't just think it, say it and say it like you mean it. Now this can take practice. I've gone over dirty talk again and again and again it takes practice. I have a whole podcast episode on that. I'll make sure to link it below so that you can get some great tips, not only for myself, but also a kink expert, and once you watch that, you'll be dirty talking like a pro.

Speaker 1: 10:24

Number five is the edging trap. It's kind of like seductive torture If you want to really dominate them from below, edge them. You're watching their body, you're tuned in to their rhythm and just when they get close, grip them tighter, tilt your pelvis, look them dead in the eye and say not yet. Then grind slow, soft, controlled, pull them into you, only to pause and watch them squirm. From this position, edging becomes a mind game. You can control their pleasure, you stretch out their orgasm until it's completely yours, and when they do finally come, they'll never forget how you did it.

Speaker 1: 11:07

Number six is another one of my favorites. It's the click command. They get to watch, wait and obey. This one is simple, sexy and incredibly effective. While they're inside of you, especially in missionary, you have full access to your external clip, and that means one thing you get to show them exactly how you come. Slide your hand down, grab a toy, or even just circle your hips and say don't come, not until I do. Watch me. Then touch yourself, move their hips the way you need them to verbalize what you need them to do, what rhythm you want, and use your free hand or your thighs to keep them in lockstep with your building climax. Make them stay right there.

Speaker 1: 12:04

The intensity of this is off the charts for both of you, and here's why it works. Visually, watching you bring yourself to orgasm is wildly arousing. Men in particular are wired to respond to visual sexual cues, and when that cue is, you writhing underneath them, touching yourself, eyes locked, using their body with pleasure for yourself. That's next level heat. Second, it can be really hot to be watched while you're getting off. You are the object of desire. You are turning them on. You are the show and it is making them go crazy. So if you like to be watched, this is the power move in missionary position.

Speaker 1: 13:00

Number three psychologically flips the whole script. He is used to being the one performing right Remember that eye candy that I mentioned before. Now he's the one being used for your orgasm and finally, biologically, your orgasm. And finally, biologically, stimulating your clit during penetration increases blood flow, orgasm intensity and your chance of having that beautiful blended orgasm, one that activates both internal and external nerve endings. When you come first to make him wait, watch and match your pace, you establish total erotic dominance without ever raising your voice. And when you finally say and match your pace, you establish total erotic dominance without ever raising your voice. And when you finally say, now you can come, you're not just giving him permission, you're giving him the performance of a lifetime and the orgasm of yours. Before I wrap this up, I'm going to give you a little bonus tip. I think it's super hot and if you are someone who likes to be a little subby, you're going to love it too.

Speaker 1: 13:59

This is when submission is dominance in disguise, because, let's get real, sometimes being submissive feels sexy as fuck, even when we don't really want to give up control. That's right. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is choose to submit. This isn't passive. This is you slipping into a submissive role with full awareness and still holding the reins. You're not being dominated. You're performing submission as a way to control the scene from a different angle.

Speaker 1: 14:31

So try this. Tell them tonight I want to be yours, but don't tell them they're still going to be following your rules. That line alone tells them everything they need to know. Remember this is your game. So let your body soften, let them think they're leading, but stay fully present. Use your breath, your moans, your expressions to guide them. Respond, but deliberately. Arch into their touch, but only when you want to Whimper. When it serves the moon, maintain eye contact like it's command.

Speaker 1: 15:09

This is conscious submission, it's control through surrender, it's kink, it's dominance and it's the kind of power that doesn't need to shout because it's felt. So here's your mission the next time you're underneath your partner, don't just be there. Dominate from the bottom, tilt your hips, lock your legs, speak your needs, hold their gaze and say you're mine until I say otherwise. This isn't about flipping positions. This is about flipping the script, because sometimes the person on the bottom is the one pulling all the strings. Give it a try and tell me how it goes.

Speaker 1: 15:46

You can do that by going to my YouTube channel. If you're just a listener, you can find me there at TalkSexWithAnette, and you can drop your comment, your thought, your question, in the comment section below the video. You can also email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom. And remember, if you are on your own pleasure journey, whether with a partner or simply in reclamation of your own sensual power, and you're looking for a sidekick, a wing woman, a cheerleader, if you will, my sex and intimacy coaching books are open and you can find out more about that by going to my website it's talksexwithanettecom, or you can email me at annette at talksexwithanettecom. So get out there, get on your back and own your pleasure. Let me know how it goes, let me know what you think about this video and if it's helped you at all, reclaim a position that has really gotten a bad rep over the years. And until next time I'll see you guys in the locker room. Cheers.