How to Ride Like a Goddess: Cowgirl Moves That Blow His Mind

You’ve been doing cowgirl all wrong—and no, it’s not your fault.

Most people are never taught how to ride in a way that actually feels good, builds orgasmic rhythm, and keeps your partner completely wrecked beneath you. That ends today.

In this episode, I’m breaking down 4 powerful cowgirl techniques that make you feel confident, connected, and absolutely unforgettable on top. You’ll learn:

✨ How to ride for your pleasure (and why it leads to stronger orgasms)
🔥 The difference between rocking, bouncing, swiveling, and reverse riding
💦 The science behind why being on top increases orgasm potential
🖤 How to kink it up with power play, praise, submission, and toys
💋 How to ride like you own the room—and their attention for days

Whether you’re new to being on top or ready to upgrade your game, this episode is your ultimate riding guide.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Podcast Introduction
• 4:39 Why Riding Feels So Good
• 6:21 Four Powerful Cowgirl Variations
• 11:17 Adding Energy and Kink
• 14:42 Making the Ride Unforgettable
• 16:42 Challenge and Closing Thoughts

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:03

Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here. Nothing's off limits. These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats, our most trusted friends and, of course, the women's locker room. Think raw, honest and sometimes unapologetically raunchy. If you've been here from the beginning, thank you. And if you're new, welcome to my podcast. Where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power. Now let's talk about sex Cheers. Today's Talk Sex with Annette. Topic is how to ride like you own him.

Speaker 1: 1:41

Cowgirl moves that make you unforgettable. Let's get one thing straight Cowgirl isn't just a change of pace, it's not just the take a break position. It's one of the most powerful, orgasmic and memorable ways to have sex. When you know what you're doing and if you're thinking. But I always feel awkward on top, or it never really does anything for me, or I get tired from bouncing too much you've just never been taught what a ride for your own pleasure. Because here's the truth when you know how to use your hips, your breath and the unique shape of your partner's body to your advantage, you're not just giving a show, you're unlocking your own orgasmic potential. And the data backs it up. Research in the Journal of Sexual Medicine shows that when people with vulvas take control of the angle and the rhythm during sex, like in cowgirl their chances of orgasm goes way up. Another study found that cowgirl creates ideal conditions for both clitoral and G-spot stimulation, and when these two get activated together, you're talking next level, full body release. And here's the best part it doesn't just feel incredible, it's hot to watch, it's hot to feel and it's hot to be part of.

Speaker 1: 3:02

So whether you're the one writing or you're the one being written, this episode is going to show you exactly how to turn cowgirl into your signature move. But before we dive in, I want to remind you that I'm over on OF and there I'm sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos, demonstrations and audio-guided self-pleasure meditations, all designed to help you on your own pleasure journey, whether that journey is with yourself or with somebody else. You can also find me on Substack doing so much of the same and more, and you can find me at both places with my handle at TalkSexWithAnette. Of course, you can always scroll down to the notes in this episode and find me wherever you want to below. But for now, let's talk about how to ride like a cowgirl who knows what she is doing Cheers. So let's talk about why riding can feel so damn good.

Speaker 1: 3:59

Cowgirl is one of the most pleasure-rich positions, especially for vulva owners, because it gives access to all the right angles without sacrificing rhythm or connection. It's customizable, adaptable, perfect for teasing, controlling or surrendering. When you're on top, you control depth, pace, angle, pressure and rhythm. That means you can hit your clit and your G-spot at once, find the stroke pattern that builds your orgasm slowly and, bonus, put on a show while doing it all. And that show is not about performing for your partner, it's about embodying your pleasure so fully that they can't look away.

Speaker 1: 4:45

So what's really getting in the way of women enjoying cowgirl Confidence? Let's talk about the elephant in the bedroom. Being on top can feel awkward. Maybe you're worried about how you look. Maybe your thighs start shaking and you feel like you're doing it wrong. Maybe you're trying to ride like some hyper-flexible porn star and you end up feeling ridiculous. Here's your permission slip to let that shit go. Confidence on top has nothing to do with choreography. It's about knowing what feels good to you and letting that lead the way. So before we dive into technique, remember this You're not trying to impress anyone. You're exploring what your body likes and when you let yourself enjoy being on top, really lean into it. That's what makes it hot. So here's the technique breakdown Four cowgirl moves that hit different. Let's get to the good part how to actually ride in ways that feel amazing and leave a lasting impression.

Speaker 1: 5:46

Here are four powerful, pleasure-maximized cowgirl variations. Each one delivers something different and together they give you a full body menu of how to ride like you own it. The first variation is the rocker, aka the grind. This one is all about clit control. The setup is this your knees are wide, you're facing him, thighs straddling your partner. Body is slightly forward, so your pelvis presses into theirs. The movement is this Don't bounce, grind. Move your hips forward and back or in slow circles, think pelvic waves, not up and down. Here's why it works. This gives you direct contact between your clit and their pubic bone, or a toy, while still stimulating your G-spot internally. And bonus, if your partner stays still, you get to create the rhythm that builds exactly the way your body needs it. This is a favorite for blended orgasms clit and internal at the same time.

Speaker 1: 6:48

The second variation is the bounce, aka deep stroke, porn star moment. This one's visual, intense and can deliver deep pressure right where you want it. The setup is this You're going to sit up straight, facing your partner, right where you want it. The setup is this You're going to sit up straight, facing your partner, feet flat on either side of your partner's hips. Use your legs like you're in a squat. You can place your hands on his or her chest for more balance. The movement is a controlled lift and drop. Just a few inches is plenty. You're not launching off the bed or on a trampoline. Here's why it works. The squat position changes your pelvic angle, gives access to deep parts of the vaginal canal and lets you use the full length of their shaft. Use it in short bursts. You well get tired. Alternate between bouncing and grinding. And if you really want to drive your partner wild, lock eyes, slow it down and say something filthy.

Speaker 1: 7:47

Variation number three is the swivel, aka tease and tangle. This one's hypnotic and so underrated. The setup is this You're going to sit fully down on them, facing them, chest, either upright or slightly forward, sometimes more forward than not. Your hips are pressed flush with theirs. The movement is this Make slow, steady circles with your hips or figure eights. Keep your pelvis connected the entire time. Here's why it works. It creates pressure along the entire vaginal wall. It's less cardio and more sensual, and it can help you reach orgasm without ever breaking contact. Want to go deeper? Add clit stimulation while you swivel fingers, toy whatever makes your body hum, and I may have saved what some might argue is the best for last.

Speaker 1: 8:43

The reverse ride, aka control from behind, or reverse cowgirl. This one flips the script and lets you play with dominance or submission, depending on your mood. The setup is that you're going to face away from your partner. You can lean forward onto their legs or keep your torso upright, whatever feels good. The movement can be a rock, a bounce, a swivel, alternate between all of them. Here's why it works. It changes the angle of penetration and it gives your partner a whole new sexy, hot view. And it also lets you lean into role play or any power dynamic you want. Big bonus is because their legs are a little bit apart, in front of you, you get access to your clit. It leaves space for you to bring a toy in. You can use some clit vibration or clit suction to help bring you to that next level orgasmic experience.

Speaker 1: 9:43

In this position you can be in control, guiding the pace, or you can surrender riding their cock because you want to give them a show. Hand over the control and let them control the pace. That can be super hot too. Pace, that can be super hot too. Also, if you lean forward a little bit, it gives them space to indulge in some anal play. Or put a butt plug in ahead of time. They will get a great view while enjoying the internal pressure that the anal plug provides to them, while pleasuring you as well. This position is sexy, primal and extremely high reward.

Speaker 1: 10:29

So now let's talk about layering the energy, not just the moves. Writing isn't just about technique, it's about energy. If you want to take it from great sex to I'll never forget that night, add these in One eye contact that says I know exactly what I'm doing. Two, breath syncing, let your rhythm lead and let them follow. Three, dirty talk. It can be soft and dominant, submissive, whispered, whatever feels hot in the moment. Four, toy play, especially clit section, or vibrators like the Womanizer. Next, while grinding, and again, I've already mentioned some butt plugs, something to give them a little bit of a show. And then finally, power play. You can ride with control or you can ride because they told you to. Both are hot, neither cancels the other out and if you ever feel unsure, come back to this. You're allowed to look messy, sound, hungry, move however you want. Allowed to look messy, sound, hungry, move however you want, because that's what real confidence on top looks like and that's what makes writing unforgettable For them and for you. If you want to turn things up even more, let's talk.

Speaker 1: 11:45

Kink Cowgirl is a perfect position to play with power. Whether you want to dominate, surrender or explore both, here's how to kink it up without even changing positions For a dominant cowgirl. Pin your partner's wrist down, maintain eye contact and say things like you take what I give you, control the pace, edge them, ride slow and then make them beg. You can take them right to the brink of orgasm. Pause While you're pausing, touch your clit, pleasure yourself and ask them to say please For a submissive cowgirl on top. Ask them how do you want me to move? Tell them to tell you what to do. Let them guide your hips, wear a blindfold, a collar or simply surrender with intention. Then there's the verbal kinks In this position, they are the chef's.

Speaker 1: 12:44

Kiss to the experience. For praise, say things like you feel so good inside of me. For degradation, you can say you're lucky, I let you fuck me like this at all. If you're teasing, you can say something like is this what you wanted? Just keep it consensual, playful and hot. Have a discussion about kink in advance if you plan on including it in your play. Consent is a must always. And of course, you can add toys and accessories, which I've already mentioned. You can use a clip vibe or suction toy. You can use a remote control plug or vibe for dual stimulation. Hand over a little control to your partner. There are always restraints. Tie them up before you ride them. Blindfolds or temperature play, if that's your thing. The options are endless for pleasure and connection.

Speaker 1: 13:44

In this position, bottom line riding doesn't have to mean taking the lead or giving it up. You get to decide what power looks like and feels like on top. Let's tie it all together and make the ride unforgettable. Here's the truth. Cowgirl doesn't have to be bouncy, awkward or intimidating. It can be slow, teasing, dominant, surrendered, filthy or soft. It can be for your orgasm, for their obsession or both. What makes it unforgettable isn't the moves, it's how present you are in your body, it's the eye contact, the sounds, the confidence, knowing that you're giving and taking at the same time, whether you're grinding slow with your clip pressed in tight, bouncing deep with your head thrown back, or teasing them with a twist of your hips and a wicked little grin. This is your ride. Own it. They are going to love it. So here is your challenge for the week from me Pick one of the moves from this episode and write it like you mean it.

Speaker 1: 14:53

Own the pace, breathe into it, feel what feels good and take more of it. And if you're ready to kink it up, try one of the power dynamics we talked about Play, explore, see what turns you on. Then come back and tell me what happened, leave a review, dm me or, better yet, send this to a friend who needs to level up their game. And if you're looking for some help on your own pleasure journey a coach, a cheerleader, a wing woman, if you will, my coaching books are open. You can connect with me via email at annette, at talksexwithannettecom, and we'll figure out how to get you on a path to more pleasure in your life and or your relationship. You can also find out more about my coaching at at TalkSexWithAnnettecom. Until next time, take your time, ride with intention and, as always, remember pleasure is your birthright. Now, go out there and get it until next time. I'll see y'all in the locker room. Cheers.